What is the size of the problem?

It is important that the children are able to recognise the size of a problem. If the children can tell the difference between big and small problems, then they will know how best to solve them. Posing the question 'Is it a big problem or a little problem?' helps the children measure the size of a problem they are experiencing.

Sometimes children may get upset over 'little problems'. For example, sometimes someone else may get something they wanted such as being chosen first or having a specific coloured piece in a game.  Introducing the concept that some problems are really big while others are little helps the children to understand that problems require different reactions, emotions, and solutions based on their size.

First we need to define what makes a problem large or small. Some of our biggest problems are problems that many people share and that have no easy or quick solution. Big problems often involve Red Zone feelings, medium problems involve Yellow Zone feelings, and little problems involve Green Zone feelings and little to no reactions. Examples of Red Zone problems could include a fire, an earthquake, being in serious danger or an emergency. A Yellow Zone problem could include an argument, being hurt, or someone being very unkind. A Green Zone problem could include making a mistake, being last in the line, plans changing, or misplacing something.

We can use the 'big problem, medium problem, and little problem' strategy to help children sort out what is important to them.